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Category: INSPIRATION

Everyone needs to be inspired and motivated at one point or the other in their lives. What we do during our down times reflects who we are and who we will become. This category contains articles that will inspire and motivate you to be your best even at your most distressing time. This inspirational section will keep you going.

  • Time management: A secret for productive living

    Time management: A secret for productive living

    Do you desire to achieve more in life? The first step to your life success is efficient time management.

    Time management is the ability to make use of one’s time effectively and productively, in order to achieve a certain aim within a specified time limit.

    Ephesians 5:15-17 So, then, be careful how you live. Do not be unwise but wise, making the best use of your time because the times are evil. Therefore, do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is.

    At times, after a long day, the first thing you’d do is sink yourself on the sofa and hide from the stress and boisterous experience of the day. While running through your to-do list for the day and checking on the tasks, you’ve ticked done. The feeling of accomplishment or worry and anxiety fills your heart after assessing your progress for the day. Sometimes, you feel you have just wasted over 20 hours of the day thinking that you’ve been working as most of the tasks are unchecked.

    It’s not that you didn’t want to do them, but several things which were not part of your plans for the day just kept on popping in, trying to get your attention.

    Imagine a friend or neighbor, popping into your home unannounced. Probably, because she needed to share with someone the challenges she’s been going through. As your brother or sister’s keeper, you’d want to give a listening ear and a shoulder to cry on. You have done nothing bad. But yet, you felt guilty to yourself after she’d left. This is because she wasn’t on your schedule for the day and a part of your time was stolen.

    Sometimes, it seems there is just not enough time to accomplish the things running through our minds or on the schedule. The 24 hours a day just seems not to be enough.

    This feeling of dissatisfaction and un-fulfillment creates worry, fear, doubt, anxiety, and depression in your heart. It generates negative energies so much that you find it difficult to engage yourself in other productive activities for the day.

    The future even seems unreal when you constantly have loads of leftover tasks flowing into each day, creating added responsibilities for each day. Success seems unachievable and progress is not measurable.

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    Time management: The key to profitable living.

    In order to overcome or minimize the anxiety that comes from all mentioned situations and many more. You must learn how to spend your time more productively.

     Any activities you include in your day are important to you and so to achieve your goals for engaging yourself in such activities. You must engage in proper and productive time management skills.

    You must learn how to make good use of your time and this act is referred to as time management.

    Time management is one of the principles of success. You need to understand the secrets that successful people know about time management.

    If you’re successful in Time management, you would be able to achieve great things specified time frame no matter how short the time frame could be.

    Time management is vital. You need to be intentional in practicing time management if you want to succeed. Managing your time will require hard work, hard work (dedication & commitment), smart work, and focus. Being successful at time management is the first step to being successful in life. Land your Dream Job with a new custom resume.

    I would like to discuss the five key principles of time management. These principles will help you manage your time as you pass through life in your pursuit of success.

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  • Positive Thinking: 7 Strategies to Living a Happier Life.

    Positive Thinking: 7 Strategies to Living a Happier Life.

    Knowing that your thoughts craft your feelings will empower you to engage the act of positive thinking.

    Positive thinking is focusing on the good side of every situation. It is being optimistic and having the assurance that there is something positive for you even at the end of the tunnel.

    Life will always present you with situations that looks difficult and impossible to solve. Sometimes, solutions might seem impossible but the ability to engage in positive thinking will help you to see beyond the problem. You will be able to see the solution that lies therein. This does not mean that you ignore problems or pretend that they do not exist. Instead, you see them with an eye of possibility and the hope that things will be well.

    Whether you are going through a dark season of life or things are going on smoothly with you, yet, you must engage the act of positive thinking in order to live a fulfilled and a stress-free life.

    Positive thinking has a lot of impart on your spiritual, physical and emotional wellbeing. One of the best ways to overcome Anxiety, worry and depression is the practice of positive thinking. Do you desire to live the life of your dream? If yes, then you need to engage in positive thinking. See beyond the problem, see beyond the present challenges you are going through and know that the answer lies in the question.

    Isaiah 8:12 “Don’t call everything a conspiracy, like they do, and don’t live in dread of what frightens them.”

    You should not run the rat race like everyone, neither should you allow what you see, hear or feel determine the outcome of your life. You can predict your own future and take the right action to make it a reality through the practice of positive thinking.

    “If you can see it in your mind, then you can hold it in your hands.” Shine Rose

    “You can turn your dream into reality from your mind.” Shine Rose

    Your future start from your mind, so you need to fill it with positive thoughts to turn your dream into reality. When you hold a picture of your future in your mind for so long, you will see them turn into reality. This is because the picture in your heart strengthens your will power to pursue your dreams. It also empowers you to pursue resources that you need in making your dream a reality.

    You must declutter your mind from all negative thoughts and emotions so as to develop the act of positive thinking.

    It is true that you cannot stop a bird from flying over your rooftop. However, you can stop the bird from perching and making a nest on your rooftop. In like manner, you might not prevent negative emotions and thoughts from crossing your mind. However, you can determine whether you want it to stay. You can also determine your reactions and attitude towards negative thoughts, actions and emotions by practicing positive thinking.

    Thinking Positively will enhance you to take the right decision even amid contrary situations. You will see beyond the natural and hence, you will act rightly and positively.

    Wondering how to live a more fulfilled life through the act of positive thinking? These seven (7) strategies will guide you on how to live a happier life through positive thinking.

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  • How do I overcome loneliness, when I have to stay at home?

    How do I overcome loneliness, when I have to stay at home?

    Loneliness is a feeling of emptiness, being alone, unloved or neglect. Its an emotional expression that we all feel one time or the other at a point in our lives. Especially now, when the entire world is in panic and confusion. We are kept away from our loved ones, daily economic, social and recreational activities, to stay at home.

    If staying at home is not a part of your life, then, it can be a big trigger for feelings of loneliness.

    Imagine, waking up in the morning, and you can’t step out of your front door. All you hear on TV and read on Facebook is news about the current pandemic facing the entire world. How on Earth do you think you can be happy?

    Whenever you try to be happy, you are bogged down with this feeling of guilt as to not being sure whether you have the right to be happy when the world is in confusion, and the death toll is rising every day because of the pandemic. 

    I am happy to announce to you, that you have every right to be happy, if not for anyone, be happy for yourself.

    You can overcome loneliness even though its one of the hardest things to during this tough times

    You don’t have to get yourself bored and hide in your bed all day. There is a chance for you to be happy and active even though you have to stay at home. Don’t allow the feeling of loneliness to put a pause on your life and social engagement, even though you are observing social distancing.

    Are you wondering about how you can overcome this feeling of loneliness and be yourself again?

    Here are some top 10 activities you can engage in to overcome loneliness while you stay at home.

    1. Practice some workouts.

    You can shake out that feeling of loneliness with some workouts while you stay at home.

    I know you can’t visit the gym now, but don’t worry; you can still get yourself involve in some light exercises. Exercising will help to ease the feelings of loneliness even if you are not used to visiting the gym.  You can download some fitness training online and try them yourself. The workout will make you sweat, and then you can take a warm shower to revise both your body and spirit. Workout that loneliness while you stay at home.

    2. Activate some of your old-time skills.

    When I say old-time skills, I mean things you used to love doing but didn’t have time for again, probably because of your busy daily schedule. Do you love baking, cooking, or gardening? Now that you have to stay at home, you can channel the energy of loneliness into some of these activities. you can overcome loneliness by reviving your inner natural creative energy. Try some of these skills like painting, drawing, baking, playing the guitar you kept in the closet all this while, etc. This is a good time to learn new skills. Learning is fun.

    You should do just anything you can lay your hands on around the house to make yourself happy.

    3. Blogging.

    Do you love writing? You can create a website and start blogging about things that make you happy. Don’t worry if you are not a professional writer, moreover, you can do it for fun. Let people know what’s on your mind and the enjoyable experience you have had through your writing. You will later find out you are helping someone somewhere who will read your blog posts.

    4. Crafting.

    If you have your kids staying at home with you, you can engage in some crafting activities with them. Children love crafting, and they love it more when they do it with their parents. Create some fun time doing craft with your kids. You should use materials within your reach like paper, leaves, paints, old newspapers, cardboard, empty cans, etc.

    5. Practice meditation.

    Meditation is one of the known and proven means of healing both the body and soul. You can overcome loneliness through practicing meditation. Keep your worries away, drive the negative thoughts out, and feed your mind on only the positive ones. Then, think about the good things that had happened recently, the lovely people you’ve met, think about love and family. Meditation will also help you discover who you truly are and how you can improve your life.

    6. Embrace self-love.

    No one can love you more than you love yourself. Although, loneliness is a result of the feelings of neglect, however, loving yourself is a key to happiness even when there is no shoulder for you to lean on. Loving yourself will help you stay happy no matter what. When you are happy, you will love others and even have a positive effect on them. Don’t hate yourself for any reason and don’t accept negative vibes. Love who you are and don’t be anyone talk you down about yourself.

    7. Cultivate the garden.

    This could sound weird. But I think getting involved in activities like cultivating the garden can be healing. Appreciating the works of nature is one of the keys to overcome loneliness. Getting to know the natural environment around your house can be a great idea. Get the flowers trimmed, water the nursery, observe the beautiful blue sky, and listen to the birds sing. You can also plant some veggies if you have the seeds at home or within your reach.

    8. Try swimming.

    If you have a pool at the backyard, whether natural or artificial pool, you can try out some swimming exercise. It will help to rejuvenate both your body and spirit. swimming will bring back to you the sense of refreshment and you’ll see loneliness fly away like a bird.

    9. Spend time with your partner.

    During a time of feelings of loneliness, one of the most important things you can do to heal faster is spending time with your loved ones, especially your partner. If you live with your partner, sharing how you are feeling with them will make things easy on you and help you heal faster. discuss your worries with your partner or your online-friends so that you can receive some encouragements.

    10. Stay active.

    Staying active throughout the day will help you overcome the feelings of loneliness. Don’t hide in your bed, or bury your head in your phone. Try out activities that get your mind engaged, lively, and reviving. Help yourself become a better person while you stay at home.

  • OVERCOME YOUR PAST: YOU CAN RISE AGAIN

    OVERCOME YOUR PAST: YOU CAN RISE AGAIN

    Our present life pattern and happenings are results of our choices and decisions of the past. However, you can overcome your past failures when you are ready to start living the future of your dream.

    Sometimes, we all have been in a situation where we are to make a decision to choose, act, speak or do something. However, instead of doing it right, we made mistakes by making the wrong choices, acting negatively or saying the wrong words.

    Our wrong decisions and actions might negatively affect us or people that are significant in our lives. These unreasonable actions have therefore brought upon us negative consequences which are currently affecting our lives or might limit us in our future achievements, if care is not taken. Nevertheless, you can overcome your past if you are ready to live the future of your dream.

    Unforgiveness, which resulted from unresolved differences have torn apart many great relationships and marriages. Either or both partners then realized their failures after making the decision to break up the relationship. And one or both partners may live to regret this act. Failure in a business of great investment or an academic pursuit where you have dedicated much time and effort can be a cause of depression and creates fear of trying again in many humans. However, you can overcome your past failures with the right attitude- learning from your mistakes.

    Your past can only limit you if you allow it to obstruct your vision of the future.

    The major reason why our past keeps coming back to us is- to obstruct us from seeing the future. You either blame yourself or some other persons for your suffering. You will not be able to see the future when you blame yourself or others for your failures. Your past creates a fearful and awful image of how the future could be and this prevents you from trying again though the future has some possibility of success. Don’t allow the monster called the past to scare you from having your dreams come true. You can overcome your past by seeing the future ahead just the way it is- Beautiful.

    You will be able to overcome your past, if only you could rise again from your point of depression. Shake off the feelings of failure, and try to see the little rays of light of hope coming from the future, then, could you realize your dreams.

    Accept that you have made the mistake and then find a way out to deliver yourself from the feelings of guilt and self-worthlessness by taking another right step. You don’t have to write all your wrongs and find solutions to all the problems you’re facing. Rather, make other significant right decisions that can launch you into your desired colorful future. You can overcome your past by taking the right action today.

    If you think you don’t have a future now, you can create one for yourself.

    Don’t rehearse your past failures

    Thinking about your past failures will only produce negative vibes in you. These negative vibes are the cause of the feelings of depression which weighs you down and stop you from moving into your future. Overcome your past by forgetting it, though you are keeping the lessons learnt.

    Rehearsing your past will increase your feelings of worthlessness and guilt, stripes you of your will power and keep you bound to your past while you merely exist in the present.

    People who rehearse their past dwell in their past and can never make any significant difference in their present life and the future. Your potentials of becoming a great achiever will also be buried in the past. This make you not more than a dead corps walking on the streets. overcome your past by rehearsing your future.

    Dwelling in your past will kill both your present and your future.

    Forgetting your past will empower you to live a productive life today while you carefully guard yourself and strife for the achievement of your dreams.

    Self-condemnation will hinder you from moving forward.

    Continually blaming yourself for your mistakes and failures is taking steps to gradual suicide. You are killing yourself, your emotions, and your power to think rightly and making right decisions. Don’t condemn or blame yourself for your past failures and mistakes. overcome your past by accepting self-love.

    Instead, learn the right lessons that life want you to learn from those situations and then take the right steps to move forward. Think about the things you should have done to make the situation right or things you shouldn’t have done. Find out the right way of handling such situations and then keep them in mind so that you can act rightly if you are later faced with such circumstances.

    However, instead of living in self-condemnation and self-hatred, you can increase your self-worth. You should Love yourself and accept your personality. If you think there are parts of your personality that as contributed to the negative incidents in your past, then strive to make a change and become a better person but never hate yourself.

    You should increase your self-worth by adding profitable values, skills, and abilities to yourself and getting engaged in activities that affect others positively.

    The bottom line

    Disconnecting from your past is a foundation for creating your new future.

    Do you want to live the life of your dream? Then, Disconnecting from your past and laying hold on life beyond today is a foundation for creating your new future.

    Do not allow your past to hold you down any longer. It does not matter how long you have been in your fallen state, you can rise again.

    Embrace everything that the future holds and never give sleep to your eyes until the future becomes a reality.

    Stay hopeful.

    With love,

    from

    Shine Rose.

  • Top Ten Side Hustles for Busy Moms

    Top Ten Side Hustles for Busy Moms

    Are you thinking of the best side hustles that can bring in more income for you as a busy mom? We all need some extra money so that we can always have some financial freedom.

    Don’t worry! Even if you are a busy mom. You can still have some side hustles to earn you extra cash.

    I have selected a list of some Top ten side hustles you can do right from the comfort of your home to increase your personal income.

    Why would you have to struggle to pay the bills again, when you can make extra cash from these side hustles.

    1. Rent out an extra space in your home: If you have an extra room in your home, this can be a good source of extra cash. No one will crucify you for using an extra space in your home as a side hustle. You can register with Airbnb as long as your home meets the requirement for receiving guests. Make sure the room and the environment are clean and in a good hospitable condition.

    2. Monetize your blog: If writing is one of the things you find easy doing at your leisure time, starting a blog can be a profitable side hustle for you. If you do not have a blogging site already, you can use one of the free website design templates or a hire a professional designer to do this for you. Start blogging about anything that makes you happy and post the contents on your site. You can monetize your site by posting affiliate marketing links on your site

    3. Practice blog flipping: Whether you are just creating a new blogging site or you have a new one, you can turn it to a side hustle to generate extra cash for you. Even if you do not have time to write, your website can be turned into money. You can grow your site traffic so as to sell it at a later date for a higher price.

    4. Sell your Instagram channel: Selling your Instagram channel is one of the easiest side hustle you can choose as a busy mom. you don’t have to do anything. Just make sure that your Instagram channel has more followers and have been in existence for quite a long period of time. Then, you sell it. Most influencers prefers to buy old Instagram channels than opening a new one.

    5. Sell home grown flowers: If you love gardening at your leisure time, selling home grown flower can be a good side hustle for you. You can sell to your neighbors, family and friends through direct personal contact. You can also open an online store where you can sell your home grown flowers

    6. Sell on Amazon: Amazon is a good place to sell your products. You can sell anything you can think of especially book. You can sell your ebooks in Amazon and get some extra cash for yourself.

    7. sell your used clothing: open an Etsy or Ebay online store to sell your used items such as clothings.

    8. Write for money: If you enjoy writing, your can turn your writing skill into a side hustle. register on platforms such as Fiverr, Upwork etc. to monetize your writing skill.

    9. Shop for others: Running an errand rabbit is also a good side hustle if you don’t mind shopping for others. You can book errand appointment to correspond with the time you do your personal shopping or during your lunch hour.

    10. Sell your eBooks: Knowledge is never free, neither is information. Package your ideas into an eBook and sell as a side hustle to get an extra cash.

  • QUOTES ON TRUSTING GOD

    QUOTES ON TRUSTING GOD

    Until you are able to recognize that you cannot do anything without God, then you will learn to trust him no matter how simple or difficult the situation is.

    “Trusting God can be the hardest thing for us to do, yet its the best we can ever do.”

    “Without God, you can do nothing”

    “Trusting the Lord is the solution to all fear and anxieties”

    “Trust in God will grant you the peace of mind that you desire.”

    “You can demonstrate your submission to God by trusting Him.”

    “Only God deserves your trust”

    “Trusting the lord will grant you the inner strength needed to overcome your fears”

    “The Lord is faithful, he will never fail your trust in him.”

    “When you find nothing to praise God for, praise him for his faithfulness”

    “Trusting in God will turn impossibility to possibility”

    “The Lord is our help and our shield.”

    “The Lord is our everlasting rock, a place of safety from the heat.”

    “Blessed are you when you believe before you see”

    “Faith is the evidence of things not seen. It is the assurance of things hoped for.”

    “I am who God says I am”

    “God’s plans for me are the Best”

    “Although he tarries, yet I will wait for it.”

    Humans always find it difficult to trust God because God is spirit. The fact that, we cannot see him physically sometimes make us feel he doesn’t worth our trust. Nevertheless, trusting God provokes blessings that we do not deserve. it gives you a renewed hope for living.

    “OH LORD, INCREASE OUR FAITH”

    “TRUSTING YOUR ABILITY OR MAN’S EFFORT WILL FAIL”

    “Your trust in the Lord will Guarantee your success in Life”

    “TRUST IN GOD PROVOKES GOD’S BLESSING”

    “Forget the past and look unto the Lord”

    “TRUST in GOD IS THE BEST ANTIDOTE FOR ANXIETY”

  • Jesus my Guide: Finding safety from the storm

    Jesus my Guide: Finding safety from the storm

    Sometimes, we experience difficult times and situations that are beyond human reasoning. Yet our anchor is Jesus Christ.

    Jesus promised us that “When you go through deep waters, I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown. When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you.” Isaiah 43:2 NLT

    In Christ alone, we can find peace from all storms and alarms.

    This song by Stuart Townend has always been an inspiration to me. Therefore, I will like to share it with you. It will inspire you to trust God again when you think all hope is lost.

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    In Christ alone my hope is found,
    He is my light, my strength, my song.
    This Cornerstone, this solid Ground,
    Firm through the fiercest drought and storm.

    What heights of love, what depths of peace
    When fears are stilled, when strivings cease
    My Comforter, my All in All
    Here in the love of Christ I stand.

    In Christ alone! – who took on flesh,
    Fullness of God in helpless babe.
    This gift of love and righteousness,
    Scorned by the ones He came to save.
    Till on that cross as Jesus died,
    The wrath of God was satisfied
    For every sin on Him was laid
    Here in the death of Christ I live.

    There in the ground His body lay,
    Light of the world by darkness slain.
    Then bursting forth in glorious day
    Up from the grave He rose again.
    And as He stands in victory
    Sin’s curse has lost its grip on me,
    For I am His and He is mine
    Bought with the precious blood of Christ

    No guilt in life, no fear in death,
    This is the power of Christ in me
    From life’s first cry to final breath,
    Jesus commands my destiny

    No power of hell, no scheme of man,
    Can ever pluck me from His hand,
    Till He returns or calls me home
    Here in the power of Christ I’ll stand.

    In all, always remember that Jesus will never leave you in the storm. Yes, he will not allow the floods to sweep over you because he is your Anchor. Hew will lead you safely to the harbor.

    Whenever the storm gets more fierce and you couldn’t find your way. Ask Jesus to take the wheel from your hands. He alone can get you home safely.

  • How to deal with depression after a miscarriage

    How to deal with depression after a miscarriage

    Dealing with depression especially after a miscarriage is not an easy thing to do for most women. This becomes harder, especially when people around you do not understand how you feel. Therefore, they could provide little or no comfort to enhance your healing process. Miscarrying a pregnancy for most women is the same thing as losing a child. This is because you are already attached to the new life forming inside of you and you are already imaging how life will be with your baby. Some women even give a name to their unborn baby immediately she is officially confirmed to be pregnant by their gynecologists. However, losing such a pregnancy that you feel has become your source of joy is one of the most pathetic experience a woman could ever have.

    As a first-time mom to-be, after getting married to my husband, the next thing I wanted was to have a baby with my husband. I was trying to conceive naturally for a couple of months. Meanwhile, I made lots of research online on how to know when I am pregnant, even, before i am medically confirmed pregnant by the doctor. I also tracked my ovulation all along so I knew my most fertile days and I made sure to have sex with my husband on such days. So I was very hopeful that something good will come up soon. The thought of having a miscarriage never came up non my list.

    Then at the third month of trying, after my ovulation period. I noticed some severe changes in my body which were more pronounced than my PMS signs and are related to pregnancy signs. My heart was filled with joy, that I could be carrying a fertilized egg in my Fallopian tubes then I started tracking my implantation period. There was so much excitement, and you know those kinds of excitement that you feel when you are so expectant that you will have a positive pregnancy result.

    Fast forward to the date for my next menstrual period. Just like what every mom to-be will do, I prayed; ‘oh my God please let the implantation be successful because I don’t want another Menstrual flow this month. I became so desperate for an official positive pregnancy test. Mind you, I already had a negative home pregnancy test at 6DPO which I thought was as a result of testing too early.

    Then comes this light menstrual cramps on the supposed first day of my menstrual period with no flow till the end of the day. I was overjoyed that I made it but had to wait a few days before testing again. Then on the second day, it all started late in the evening period and here comes this serious and painful menstrual cramps that make me feel as if my uterus wall was tearing up and falling all by itself. I cried all night as my cervix dilate and contrast with lots of blood and tissues being passed out through my vagina. Can I call this a failed implantation or a miscarriage?

    Failed hopes, shattered expectation, no baby, what could have happened? Finally, I realized I just had what was medically called a chemical pregnancy or what some referred to as a blighted ovum. This is what happens when there is a deformation in the genetic formation of the fertilized egg as a result of a poor quality ovum or sperm. Then the fertilized egg fails to implant once the body recognizes this deformity. The body then expels the deformed fertilized egg as a menstrual flow even before the expectant mother knows that she is pregnant. Nevertheless, is still believed it was a miscarriage as I had all hope that i was carrying a fertilized ovum.

    Despite the disappointment and failed hopes, I decided to try again the following month and then the same thing came happening all over again. However, I have not loosed hope to get pregnant and I have decided to keep on trying until I have my baby. I have been praying too and trusting God, exercising my faith and keeping the word of God alive in my heart. Having a miscarriage was never on my list, so it really got me depressed when I felt I had loose what was supposed to be my baby.

    Are you a first-time mom-to-be who is trying to conceive but going through similar issues like mine or even worse? Am going to briefly share with you some of the things I did that kept me going despite all my struggles while trying to conceive and how I had cope with depression after two miscarriages.

    10 Amazing ways to cope with depression after a miscarriage

    1. It is ok to cry if you feel like crying

    Crying allows you to release those inner struggles and the negative vibes inside of you. So don’t feel too bad if you feel like crying. It’s ok for you to grieve for your child not making it alive. However, don’t blame yourself. Because, it’s not your fault, especially, when you don’t have the power to control the cause of the miscarriage.

    2. Seek medical assistance

    If you think that you need to seek medical assistance, then you should. Especially in severe cases, when your pregnancy is in the second or third trimester, don’t hesitate to visit the Doctor. Having a miscarriage at the second or third trimester is very dangerous to your health and also lead to depression. Depression will have more negative effect on you while trying to conceive, so seek medical attention. Make sure that you receive all the necessary medical care. Have your fertility tests, and treatments and adhere to all medical prescriptions from your gynecologist.

    3. Maintain a healthy living

    You don’t have to bury your head in depression all day long. Maintaining a healthy life will increase your chances of conceiving again. You will also be able to stay sexually active. Make sure you have a regular balanced diet, have regular simple exercise exercises, sleep well and maintain healthy social behavior. Having a miscarriage is not an end to your hope of giving birth to a child. It just show that you are fertile and capable of reproducing yourself.

    4. Discuss exactly how you feel with your partner

    Don’t assume that your partner should know how you feel. Instead, talk it over with him when you are more emotionally stable. Let him know how much you will appreciate it, if you could receive some comfort from him. And make sure you find love, comfort, and encouragement from your partner or a loved one. Holding-in your sadness will increase depression.

    5. Have regular sex with your partner.

    Make sure that you have regular sex with your partner at least every other day. Having enough sperm in your body will help to increase your chance of conception, during ovulation. Don’t forget to track your ovulation and make sure to have sex on such days. Sex is never too much especially when you are trying for a baby. However, having regular sex with your partner can also provide healing from all feelings of depression because you will receive more love during this time.

    6. Eat more fruits and veggie. Take vitamins and folic acid

    Taking fruits like apple and pineapple can increase your chance of fertility. Research has proven that pineapple contain the enzyme called bromelain which can help the fertilized egg to implant firmly into the uterine wall. The Vitamin C contained in pineapple as well as other fruits and veggie will help to boost your immune system for increased rate of fertility and prevents miscarriage.

    7. Seek comfort from God’s word

    The most secure place to find hope and comfort is from God’s word. Believe every word of God that you have read, knowing fully well that God has the best plan for you. Study your bible regularly and make sure that you confess God’s word as it applies to your situation. The Lord has promised you fruitfulness, you shall not be barren neither shall you cast your young(miscarriage).

    8. Pray

    Prayer has a way of relieving our griefs when will let God know how much we are going through. When you pray, God’s love and light will radiate all over your heart, thereby, producing a supernatural joy from within. The joy will be beyond the sorrow that you might have experienced. Prayer is one of the effective medicine to heal from depression.

    9. Pursue fulfilment in other areas of your life

    You don’t have to bury yourself in depression forever. Engage yourself in productive activities that excite and make you feel fulfilled. Joyfully await the arrival of your bundle of joy (I mean your baby). Nevertheless, be more productive in your job or business. If you have a job that gives you more free time, you can start a blog and start writing. Writing has a way of helping your pour out your thoughts and sharing your ideas with your online friends. You can blog about everything that you love.

    10. Stay hopeful

    Never lose the hope of having your biological child, even if you have had multiple miscarriages. Because, with God, all things are possible.

    “If you think you can, then you will”. Shine Rose

  • How to choose my friends

    How to choose my friends

    Friends are people who are an important part of our lives. This is because they can easily influenced us either positively or negatively. And you know, the kind of friends you choose to have is a clear picture of who you are and what your character, attitude, and philosophy of life are.

    However, to have the best experience of life in the company of your friends, you must choose your friends carefully. You must be able to recognize what your personality is and how you can be of positive effect in the life of the other person.

    Every friendship relationship you enter into must be with a purpose. There must be a mutual focus, vison to keep you on track and feedback from both sides. This means that a one-sided friendship relationship is simply one that might tend to sniff life out of your neck. It can also be referred to as a parasitic relationship and the next thing you should do if you find yourself in such a relationship is how to break up from a parasitic relationship.

    Ok now. There are three kinds of friends that you can have in your life. I will discuss the first two briefly now and the third category of friends is our main focus in this article. The first category is ‘casual friends’ or ‘acquaintances’ while the second category of friends is ‘intimate friends’.

    Casual friends or acquaintances are people whom you recognize by face or even by name but you have limited or no information about them and vice-versa. They are people you seldom or often have physical contact with but with no personal relationship. These are people you meet at work, in the classroom, in college, in church, in the neighborhoods and even as you go on in the journey of life.

    However, as situations and circumstances arise which brings you in frequent close contact with a casual friend. There is a possibility that a casual friend can become a close or intimate friend. People who are your intimate or close friends can be people whom you relate more closely with. They are selected from your casual friends and they can be 40% of your casual friends. There is a common ground that brings you together regularly. This could be a group project, teamwork, church unit or department, club, family, etc. When you recognize that you have personalities in common with such a person and then there is an attraction to one another.

    However, there is a tendency that an intimate friend becomes causal because of the lost in the common interest. This may happen when the common ground that has brought you together is dissolved, a change in focus, vision or personality by one or both parties.

    Nevertheless, the third category of friends is the kind of people that I have called your ‘inner circle friends’. Sometimes, they are also chosen from your intimate friends and sometimes you can meet them in the journey of your life.

    Friends in your inner circle are people that you have a long term common interest focus vision pursuit and philosophy of life with. You have built a long term mutual trust, welfare, respect, understanding passion, and a common life pursuit together. They are people whom you trust that they will always watch your back any day and time. Moreover, you are always ready to help each other and life will be the sweetest with them. This category of friends are rare to find and this makes them very few in number. You will need inner circle friends in business, career, ministry, family, etc. You might have one or two of them in your life and at most three. I have recommended at most three members for your inner circle friends, because, you don’t need too much of them.

    Your inner circle friends are people who are close to you and in such a way that you have developed a personal and intimate relationship with them. You share closely related vision, passion, aims and objectives, life goals, and life philosophy, life principles, and attitude, character, faith and belief systems. Your inner circle friends have detailed information about some specific areas of your life. They are people who know your strength and weakness. You can trust them, however, for comfort, encouragement, support, and sometimes correction when you act contrary. Every member in the inner circle friend can always trust each other for support and care.

    10 Top questions to answer before choosing your inner circle friends.

    1.    How long have you been in a consistent, committed and intimate relationship with him/her?

    2.    do you share and pursue a closely related vision, passion, believes and faith?

    3.    Is he/she always positive about your success or other person’s success?

    4.    Does he/she exhibit negative vibes, such as, jealousy, envy, depression, criticism, etc.?

    5.    Do you plan and work together to achieve a common goal?

    6.    Do you share common interests in specific areas of your life such as career, academics, faith, marriage, etc.?

    7.    Do you have an agreement of friendship?

    8.    Can he/she defend you any time?

    9.    Is he/she confidential?

    10.     Do you share feedbacks about your progress?

    12 Top Qualities of friends who should be in your inner circle

    1.    Trustworthy

    2.    Honest

    3.    Accountable

    4.    Loving

    5.    Positive-minded

    6.    Result-oriented

    7.    Visionary

    8.    Passionate

    9.    Resilient

    10.    Supportive

    11.    Confidential

    12.    Excellent communication and relational skills

  • Believe in yourself

    Believe in yourself

    If you do not believe in yourself no one will because your first step to success is believing that you can. You will achieve much more than you think when you believe in yourself

    One of the lies the enemy uses in limiting you is making you believe that you can’t do it. God has dropped that idea in your heart because he has embedded into you the capacity, ability, and talents to make it happen. You can turn your dream into reality, if you can just believe in yourself.

    Do not focus your eyes on your weakness, limitations or challenges around you because if you do, life will suggest to you 100 legitimate excuse why you actually can’t birth your dreams. Believe in yourself today to become the woman of your dream.

    Your gifts and talents are not just to decorate your life nor to bring profit to other people. Rather, the gifts are to make you the kind of person God has created you to be. However, God want you to affect your world positively starting from your immediate environment. You are born to rule, born to lead, born to be a leader.

    “if you believe you can, then you will” Shine Rose

    Courage is staring the impossible at the face. It is the first step to making a miracle happen.

    Without courage and confidence in yourself, your dreams and plans will only be a mirage. Your will attract the right energy and strength to birth your dreams when you believe in yourself. “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength” Apostle Paul of Tarsus

    “You can achieve anything, if you set your heart to making it happen.” shine Rose

    “Our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them” Walt Disney.

    It’s time for you to identify your inspired dreams, new goals to be achieved, personal projects you’ve left unattended to. Whatsoever, take the first step by tell yourself that you can do this.

     Remember, “It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop” Anonymous

    Explore your talents and you will see how capable and more talented you are.

    You can achieve much more when you believe in yourself.

    Why the wait for another day when you can start today?