Category: RELATIONSHIP

Do you sometimes feel you’re just going through the motions in life alone? Maybe you always act like you’re fine when you secretly feel lonely and disconnected from people? Perhaps, you seem to have a good life, and yet somehow, it’s not enough to make you happy. Or perhaps you engage in weird activities like drinking too much, eating too much, or risking too much, just to feel something good. You may suffer from Childhood Emotional Neglect. If so, you are not alone.

Childhood emotional neglect occurs when a child’s parent or parents fails to respond adequately or promptly to their child’s emotional needs in a loving manner. Emotional neglect may not necessarily be childhood emotional abuse. Abuse is most times an intentional act by the oppressor; it’s a purposeful choice to act in a way that is harmful. However, emotional neglect can be an unintentional disregard for a child’s feelings. It can also be a failure to act or notice a child’s emotional needs.

Parents who emotionally neglect their children may still provide care and basic necessities for the child. They just miss out on or mishandle this one key area of support. They do not think the child really has an emotional need at that age. The parent does not understand that the child has an emotional need to be attended to.

An example of emotional neglect is a child who tells their parent they’re sad about a friend’s attitude at school. The parent ignores it as a childhood game instead of listening and helping the child cope. Over time, the child begins to learn that their emotional needs are not important and then, the child stops seeking support. It may be hard for parents to know they’re doing it. Likewise, it may be difficult for caregivers, such as doctors or teachers, to recognize the subtle signs.

Common signs of childhood emotional neglect in children are:

Depression

anxiety

apathy

failure to thrive

hyperactivity

aggression

developmental delays

low self-esteem

substance misuse

withdrawing from friends and activities

appearing uncaring or indifferent

shunning emotional closeness or intimacy

The effects of emotional neglect in children can be quite subtle and this has been found to be one of the major causes of depression in adults who have experienced childhood emotional neglect. Adults who have experienced childhood emotional neglect find it difficult to handle their emotions. They could also become parents who neglect the emotions of their children as they have not received such love.

Common effects on adults who have experienced childhood emotional neglect:

post-traumatic stress disorder

depression

emotional unavailability

the increasing likelihood for an eating disorder

shunning intimacy

feeling deeply, personally flawed

feeling empty

poor self-discipline

guilt and shame

anger and aggressive behaviors

difficulty trusting others or relying upon anyone else

7 Best ways to overcome childhood emotional neglect as an adult.

Understanding the symptoms of emotional neglect in children can be important to getting the child and parents help. However, many children do not speak out nor receive help until adulthood. Whether you are a teenager or an adult who have experienced childhood neglect, I have good news for you. The good news is that you can overcome and live a happier life.

1. Recognize and accept God’s love for you.

Psalm 27:10

“When my father and my mother forsake me, then the Lord will take me up.”

Do your feelings hurt because you didn’t receive enough love and care from your parents as a child? Or you feel betrayed by the one who should love you. Here is a healing balm for you. The Lord is a loving father, he can do much more than your earthly parents will do. He loves you and will always care for you. He will take you up(adopt) you as his own child. Know that you are now a joint-heir with Christ. God’s love for you is the utmost.

2. Forget the past

Isaiah 43:18-19 CEV

“Forget what happened long ago! Don’t think about the past.

I am creating something new. There it is! Do you see it? I have put roads in deserts, streams in thirsty lands.”

Forgetting the past is one of the best things to do to overcome the emotional neglect or any form of childhood abuse that you have experienced in the past. You don’t have to cling to the things of the past. The past is gone and behind you, it no longer has power over you. Let go of the past, the hurt, the pain the shame, anything you might have experienced. It’s time for a new beginning, you can begin again. God is creating something new for your favor. A new and glorious future. Can’t you see it? There it is, you can have it now. He is sending help to you, turning impossibilities into possibilities. God has your best interest at heart. His plans for you are only good, to give to you the desired future.

Do not be afraid anymore. Let go of the past! Start walking towards the future!

3. Embrace total dependence on God

Deuteronomy 32:12-13

“The LORD alone led him, and no foreign god was with him

He made him (Israel) ride on the high places of the earth, And he ate the produce of the field; And He made him suck honey from the rock, And [olive] oil from the flinty rock,”

To overcome the hurts and pains of childhood emotional neglect or abuse, you need to depend on and trust in God absolutely. I know you might find it difficult to trust people or to depend on them because of your past experience. But God is saying, “you can trust me”, “You can depend on him”. He wants you to make him the love of your life, he wants you to give him all the space in your heart. When you make God your all in all, he will lead you through life, he will cause you to walk upon the high places of the earth, he will make impossibilities possible. He will turn your story around and give you a brand-new life.

Would you make him your all in all today?

4. Have the mind of Christ

Philippians 2:5

“and think the same way that Christ Jesus thought:”

Ask God to help you handle your emotions aright constantly, by thinking the same way that Christ Jesus thought. Do not be controlled by your feelings of hurt because of childhood emotional neglect. But ask yourself, “how will Jesus think or respond to this kind of situation am in”. Then you do likewise. You should constantly meditate on God’s word, as this will help you align your thoughts and emotions to that of Christ. When you do this, instead of being hurt constantly and depressed, you will lead a happy life.

5. God has a plan for you

“I will bless you with a future filled with hope–a future of success, not of suffering.”

I know that you have been neglected emotionally and have not received the love and care that you desire whether as a child or an adult. However, I want you to know that God has a plan for your life. You don’t have to live in constant depression or emotional trauma. God wants to bless you with a future filled with hope. He will give you the future that your parents could never give to you. Jesus wants to take away the sufferings and pains as a result of childhood emotional neglect. He wants to make you smile again.

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6. Live a happy life

“If you are cheerful, you feel good; if you are sad, you hurt all over.”

Living a happy and cheerful life will help you to overcome the pains of childhood emotional neglect. You need to make the decision to be happy at all times. Being happy constantly will help you to control your emotions properly, live a healthier life and be productive at work.

7. Forgive yourself and others

Matthew 6:15

“But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”

You need to forgive yourself, if you are holding some grudges and bitterness against yourself. It is not your fault that you experienced childhood emotional neglect nor is it your parent’s fault. Do not blame yourself for this. Forgive yourself and also your parents so that your heavenly father can also forgive you your sins.

The bottom line

Matthew 11:28

“If you are tired from carrying heavy burdens, come to me and I will give you rest.”

Are you tired of being depressed, bitter, angered, unhappy, and living a life of uncertainty? Come unto Jesus. He will heal your wounds, restore you and give you a new life.

Do you need counseling? Or would like to talk to someone on how to get healed from the pains of childhood emotional neglect? Find help here.

Peace is a state of calmness, quietness, restfulness, and absence of disturbance or war. Creating this sense of calmness and restfulness in the home starts with each partner loving each other. However, maintaining peace requires much work and tasks so that the love can continue to thrive in the family.

Maintaining peace in the home affect the well-being of both partners, even that of the children. A home filled with peace will support the financial growth, emotional healthiness, psychological wellbeing, and even spiritual unity of every member of the family.

Your home should be a place of shelter from the heat and the storm of the outside world, both for you and your spouse. This is one of the major reasons you need to keep your home constantly at peace. We all go through a lot of stress every day and returning to an environment filled with love and tranquility can be a significant stress reliever.

Another reason you need your home to be at peace is so that the Holy Spirit can work in your home. The Holy Spirit wants to abide with you continually, he wants to go through everyday activity with you. Although he lives in your heart, he also wants to live in your home.

You can save your marriage from divorce by maintaining the peace of God in your home.

Here are some tips to maintain peace in your Home

Colossians 3:13 Berean Study Bible

“Bear with one another and forgive any complaint you may have against someone else. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”

1. Bear with your partner. To bear means to endure, tolerate, stand with, put up with. This is not that you are enduring your marriage. It only means that you recognize and accept the uniqueness of your partner and the difference that you both have. This is why God created you as male and female. Identifying your unique differences will help you to lead a peaceful life.

2. Forgive Your partner. Consistently forgive your partner of any fault you have against him. This is not because he asked for your forgiveness but because you love the Lord and you desire a peaceful home. Do you need a relationship coach? click here

3. Avoid criticism or pointing of the finger.

Romans3:10 KJV

“As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one:”

Don’t be quick to criticize or to Judge your partner when he/she is at fault. Anyone can be caught up in a fault because there is not a perfect person. Do not talk down to your partner because of his fault, rather, correct and speak the truth in love.

4. Be selfless. Don’t be selfish.

Proverbs 18:1 CEV

“It’s selfish and stupid to think only of yourself and to sneer at people who have sense.”

Selfishness is acting in a way that seems favorable to you only, at the expense of others. Think of you to please your partner before yourself. God wants you to lead a selfless life because you will do good to yourself as well. Always consider your words and actions if they will benefit your partner before you act. Find out your partner’s love language and start speaking it to increase peace in your home.

5. Be Truthful

Hebrews 4:13 CEV

“Nothing is hidden from God! He sees through everything, and we will have to tell him the truth.”

If you desire a home filled with the peace of God, you must constantly speak the truth in all situations. Speaking the truth will improve the trust and confidence level of your partner towards you. Let no element of falsehood be found in you. You should constantly and consistently speak the truth in love.

6. Be gentle

Philippians 4:5 Amplified version

“Let your gentle spirit [your graciousness, unselfishness, mercy, tolerance, and patience] be known to all people. The Lord is near.”

Being aggressive in words and actions is a trigger factor of Anger. Therefore, you must be gentle in spirit. A soft answer turns away wrath… Proverbs 15:1.

Developing a gentle and quiet spirit will help you become a woman of virtue.

The bottom line

Do you desire the Holy Spirit and his works in your home? Seek to maintain a peaceful home environment. A prophetic instruction can save your marriage from the shipwreck.

Is the peace of your home currently under attack by the devil or your heart is unrestful? Seek prayers and counseling today.

The feelings of frustration and hopelessness about the future are increasing daily among the youths and teenage persons and this is a major cause for the fear of the future.

However, there are many triggers of fear of the future such as lack of a good job, poor housing standards, low finance, insecurity issues, low level of education, death of a parent or loved one, and many more. Also, unhealthy self-esteem and unfulfilled dreams are major triggers of fear of the future.

When all hope for the future seems lost, I want you to know that there is still hope for you. You will soon be at the end of the tunnel and light will shine on you. You don’t have to give up on God or on yourself. There is still hope for your future.

When you are having fear of the future, here are the 5 best ways to overcome it.

5 best ways to overcome the fear of the future.

1.            Know that God has a plan for your life

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29:11

Even when all your plans have failed and all resources wasted, do not forget that God has a better plan for your Life. His thoughts for you are the best. He cares for you much more than you do for yourself and by his own power, he will achieve his plans, with or without your input. The devil is using the fear of the future to stop you from keeping focused on the glory ahead. Keep your eyes on the promises of God for your life. Do you desire to know God’s plan for your life? Find out here.

2. You are not alone

“The Lord your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with gladness; he will quiet you by his love, and he will exult over you with loud singing.” Zephaniah 3:17

Even though you’re in your darkest season when there are no traces of light, God is with you. When you walk through the valley of the shadow of death, he is also with you; you have nothing to fear. Even though the future may seem gloomy, yet, your help is at hand. God is an ever-present help in times of trouble. He is carrying you in the hollow of his palms, therefore, you have nothing to fear.

3. You are born to rule

“Surely you will summon nations you know not, and nations you do not know will come running to you, because of the LORD your God, the Holy One of Israel, for he has endowed you with splendor.” Isaiah 55:5

You are born to rule and not to be a slave. Fear makes you a slave, a coward, and a shadow of yourself. You can be all that God has created you to be if only you can trust him. You are born to be a pioneer of great works, a leader and a founder. Don’t be afraid to step out in faith. You can make it. Your dreams can become a reality.

 

4. He loves you

“But this I call to mind, and therefore I have hope: The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases;

His mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.” Lamentations 3:21-23

5.            He will Guide you

The LORD says, “I will guide you along the best pathway for your life. I will advise you and watch over you. Psalm 32:8

We make our own plans, but the LORD decides where we will go. Proverbs 16:9

Constantly, you must seek God’s Guidance when making everyday decisions and he will lead you aright. You don’t have to fear the future when God is leading you. Because he holds your future in His hands and he has a plan for you.

The bottom line

Fear is one of the greatest weapons that the devil uses to steal, kill, and destroy. However, you can overcome the fear of the future if only you will trust God and allow Him to guide you today. Do you need to know God’s plan for your life? Click here.

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It is the will of God for you to be live a happy and fulfilled life. Depression is not part of God’s plan for you no matter the cause whether is loss of job, failure, miscarriage, etc. You can rise above any limitation the devil has placed over your life. Therefore, should be wiser than the enemy and send back to him every arrow of depression that he has sent into your life. Do not give the devil a chance in your life, no matter how small.

Just like the saying that, when you give the devil an inch in your life, he will take a thousand miles. The agenda of the devil is to steal, to kill and to destroy (John 10:10). He has come to destroy your joy, peace of mind and to prevent you from seeing the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living.

However, you have the victory in Christ Jesus. Revelations 12:11 declares, “and they overcame him by the blood of the lamb and by the word of their testimony, loving not their lives even unto death.” You must arise and declare the word of your testimony using the word of God against every arrow of depression that the enemy is targeting at you.

Confess these bible verses to overcome depression anytime you sense the devil firing the arrow of depression against you.

1. Psalm 30:11 – You have turned for me my mourning into dancing; you have loosed my sackcloth and clothed me with gladness,

2. Deuteronomy 31:8 – It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not leave you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed.”

3. Psalm 3:3 – But you, O Lord, are a shield about me, my glory, and the lifter of my head.

4. Isaiah 40:31- But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; he shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.

5. Philippians 4:13 – I can do all things through him who strengthens me.

6. John 16:33 – I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.

7. Isaiah 41:10 – Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

8. Matthew 11:28 – Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.

9. Jeremiah 29:11 – For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.

10. Proverbs 3:5-6 – Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.

11. Psalm 30:5 – For his anger is but for a moment, and his favor is for a lifetime. Weeping may tarry for the night, but joy comes with the morning.

What you should do when overwhelmed with feelings of depression.

1.            Avoid Anxiety. Anxiety is the foundation to worrying and depression, so if you want to live a happy life, you should avoid anxiety

12. Proverbs 12:25 – Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad.

2.            Feel your heart with the word of God. You can also listen to messages from Faithful preachers of Gods word and listen to spirit-lifting songs that help you to trust God more. Depression weakens the heart but the word of God will strengthen your heart.

13. Romans 12:2 – Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.

3.            Trust God has your protector and deliverer from all situations and circumstances. Trusting God is a major cure for depression.

14. Psalm 9:9 – The Lord is a stronghold for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble.

4.            Do not entertain fear because it crumbles your faith and trust in God. Being fearful can also cause depression instead ask for courage from the Lord to overcome. for everyone born of God overcomes the world. This is the victory that has overcome the world, even our faith. (1John 5:4)

15. 2 Timothy 1:7 – For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.

5.            Do not allow the devil to threaten you with your old way of life or past mistakes because old things have passed away. Depression is meant to steal your joy but God has promised you a life full of joy unspeakable.

16. Revelation 21:4 – He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.”

6. Ask the Lord for help. You don’t need to worry about what you don’t have control over. Instead of being worried and anxious, ask the lord for help and wisdom on how to handle such issues.

17. Psalm 34:17-18 – When the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears and delivers them out of all their troubles. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.

7.            Seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness.

Seeking the kingdom of God should be your priority not fame. Get to know God more and to have a close personal relationship with him. You can do nothing without God. Depression causes you to lose the future you have always dreamt of. However, trusting in God help to keep your hope alive.

God’s will for your life when filled with depression

18. Matthew 6:33 – But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.

19. Romans 15:13 – May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.

20. John 16:33 – I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.

21. Joshua 1:9 – Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”

The bottom line

Know that the Lord is with you in all situations and circumstances. This is the key to enjoying a victorious life filled with joy, peace and hope. Shake off the garment of depression and start living a life of heaven on earth.

Wondering why you feel the way you do? That’s because you just think that way and maybe you do not know that your thoughts craft your feelings.

The foundation to becoming the man or woman of your dream starts with your thoughts. When you think positively, you will attract positive feelings. However, Positive thoughts will help you to create positive feelings.

The mind is a powerful tool given to us by God to shape our lives just the way we want it to be. If you want to live a happy life, then always have happy thoughts.

Proverbs 23:11 says, “As a man thinketh in his heart so, is he”

The true reflection of who a man is and what he will become is characterized in his thoughts. Your thoughts are the foundation to the results that you experience in your life.

For instance, if you think that you have a headache, then by the next 30 seconds there is possibility that you might start feeling headache. Your thoughts craft your feeling so you must think positively.

When you think that your spouse is cheating on you, that is the time you begin to have feelings of insecurity and being suspicious of his/her every move and actions. This cause you to be overwhelmed with some much negative vibes towards your spouse that you will conclude that the marriage is over. The devil has his ways of making you to believe his lies. Don’t allow the devil to feed you with bad shits when you have the word of God to strengthen your heart.

If you have the thoughts that someone is better than you in an area of life then you will start having feelings of jealousy and envy against that person. But instead, think that you can also be like that person and even better. You should think on how to develop your mind and to acquire the skills that is required to have such achievement.

And most importantly, rejoice with anyone who has made a great accomplishment that you also desire. Then, you will have the feelings of courage and self-confidence that you can also achieve your dreams. Knowing that your thoughts craft your feelings will help you to consciously work on the thoughts that runs through your mind.

Most people nowadays suffer from anxiety, depression and all forms of emotional sicknesses. These emotional sicknesses all started from the thoughts in their heart. If you think that you cannot meet the deadline or that your house will be marked foreclosed because you think you wouldn’t be able to pay for the mortgage, then these thoughts will produce the feelings of worry, anxiety and depression.

This is not how you are designed to live, you are created to live a happier life.

When you think positively, then you will have the energy to overcome every negative circumstances around you. Instead of burying your head in self-pity, imagine the life you want in your mind through positive thinking

Do you want to live an emotional stress-free and a peaceful life? Then think good and happy thoughts.

Think that you can meet the target, think that your business will rise again, think that you are the best of your kind and that no one is better than you are. Think on the opposite of the negative thoughts or feelings going through your mind. Encourage yourself and stay confident. Even during your dark season, let only good and positive thoughts flows through your mind. Remember, your thoughts crafts your feelings.

What Negative thoughts will do to you

It will limit your will power

God has deposited into you the inner ability to do everything and to achieve all things that you set your heart on. But if you allow the thoughts that You can’t, you are not qualified or that you are disadvantaged in any way then, you won’t be able to achieve your dreams. God has created into you the gifts and talents, supernatural abilities to create the future of your dream. However, you need to unleash this inner power embedded in you. The seed of greatness is you, but you need to make effort by using your will power to bring it out.

It devalues you

Giving in to negative thoughts will make you lose your self-worth and to think less of yourself. Negative thoughts prevent you from seeing the best of your efforts and to appreciate your life’s achievement. It makes you see yourself as a failure and that nothing good can happen within and around your life. All these and many more are lies of the devil. When you do not value yourself, you will allow other persons to miss use you. You will be less motivated and easily fall into depression. Think only good and positive thoughts about yourself as this will motivate you to jump out of bed every morning.

It affects your relationships

Having good thoughts will improve your relationship life. You will be more friendly with others and easy to associate with. This will also help you to attract the right kind of people into your life. However, having negative thoughts about yourself or others around you will make you run into isolation and loneliness. You will become suspicious of everyone around you, you will be mean, saucy, critical and hard to relate with. Its wise to make more friends than more enemies. Have thoughts of how to help other around you, how to be a blessing and to sow seeds of love. Then, you will also feel loved, supported and never alone.

Gods purpose for your Gifts and Talents is for you to manifest his glory on earth. Would you do that today?

1Corinthians 12:7, “But the manifestation of the spirit is given to everyone to profit withal.”

The expectation of God for giving us spiritual gifts and natural talents is to profit withal as individuals and as a church. He wants us to bear fruits of souls, getting men saved and established in him. Any spiritual gift or natural ability that you possess or manifest which does not profit God and humanity is of no value to God.

The Holy Spirit manifests his Almighty power in us through the special abilities he gives to us which are the spiritual and natural gifts that he has deposited in us.

The manifestations of these gifts show what God can do in us and through us. Therefore, the gifts cannot be effective without the influence or support of the holy spirit who is the giver.

God want you to use your gift and talents no matter how little or insignificant you think it is. Even though, all our gifts and talents are important to God because he has given them to us according to our abilities which he knows we will be able to profit with.

You do not need to envy other person’s gifts and talents. Instead, thank God for the grace he has given to you, find ways on how to develop them and to make good use of them.

5 purposes for your gifts and talents

1. To be a blessing

God has blessed you with your gifts so that you can bless humanity and he is happy when you make use of your gifts and talent.

You are born to solve specific life problems and to make the world a better place for all to live in.

God does not want you to be miserable, or a problem to humanity. He wants you to be a problem solver. Those gifts and talents in you are to solve human problem no matter how little it might look. You are to impact your world. You don’t need to start by touring the whole world but you can start from your home. Share Gods love in your neighborhood, among your friends, church and the community. God want you to put a smile on someone’s face.

2. To live a fulfilled life

One of the ways God want us to live a fulfilled live is when we make use of the gifts and talents that he has embedded in us.

God has a plan which he wants to achieve through you and this is the reason for bringing you into the world. However, God has given you all that is needed to achieve his plan through the gifts hand talents given to you.

These gifts and talents are heaven’s resources for achieving a divine project. Therefore, you will to make use of your gifts. You will experience the joy of a fulfilled life when you allow God to achieve his purposes through you.

3. To live a prosperous Life

God does not want us to live in lack or poverty. His will is for us to prosper and one of the ways in which this can be achieved is by using our gifts and talents. Proverbs 18:16 says, “A man’s gifts opens doors for him and bring him before great men”. You can become prosperous with your gifts easily and faster than with your profession.

However, your gifts and talent can become your profession when you develop it and make efficient use of it. This does not mean that you should pursue the financial or material rewards for making use of your gifts. However, you should use your gifts first to glorify God and bless humanity. Then, the rewards will naturally flow to you.

4. To worship God

Our gifts and talents should be offered as a sacrifice to God in worship and reverence unto him. You are to acknowledge God has the owner and the giver of the gifts that you possess. By doing this, you will use the gifts for God’s glory.

Furthermore, you are not to become proud nor see yourself better than others because of the gifts of God in your life. Your gifts and talents should be rendered as means of worshipping God. When you do this, God is happy and he receives the glory. Remember, when you bring glory to the father, he will also glorify you. God will announce you and you wouldn’t have to struggle for platforms to make use of your gifts and talent.

5. To serve God and Humanity

“If anyone serves Me, let him follow Me; and where I am, there My servant will be also. If anyone serves Me, him My Father will honor.” John 12:26.

God want you to serve him and humanity with your gifts. Therefore, do not seek to be honored because of your gifts and talents but seek to serve God and humanity with them. Having a heart of a servant will qualify you to be promoted to the position of a leader.

You do not need to seek for fame for God will announce you at the right. Moreover, you must serve faithfully and diligently so that God will honor you.

“Yet it shall not be so among you; but whoever desires to become great among you, let him be your servant.” Matthew 20:26. It is God’s will that you should serve him and humanity with your gifts and talents.

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A confidant is a person with whom one share a secret or private matter while trusting them not to repeat it to others without due permission.

“But Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart.” Luke 2:19

“Her husband has full confidence in her and lack nothing of value” Proverb 31:11

Sometimes, I wonder why my mother had to go through some stuffs in her life. My mother was my confidant till I got married when my husband turned to be my best friend and confidant. My mum had made so much sacrifices for us, endured hard times, all for the sake of her children.

At a time, I had to ask her, why she had to endure so much tough times in her life and relationships. Then, she said, “when you start having children and have a family, you will understand the sacrifices a mother makes. And so, I am now a mom and I understand better just like she said.

Starting from the time of being pregnant, a confidant mother will continually stand in for her family and make sacrifices for them. She is the first true and reliable friend and confidant her child knows. Also, her husband also depends on her to make the home a lovely place to live in. She put on a smile to comfort and encourage others while her heart fights against so much pain and fear. A confidant woman is brave and strong enough to confront anything challenging the peace, safety and progress of her household.

Every woman is a potential mother, because, that is how God created us to be. It is not only a woman who has given birth to her biological children that is a mother. Therefore, every woman with a loving and tender heart is a mother. A mother is sacrificial, she is ready and willing to give her all to her children either biological or not.

Are all mothers worth celebrating?

You are not a failure even if your child or one of your children has ran away from home, or he/she is into hard drugs, got pregnant as a teenager or couldn’t finish high school. Whatsoever challenges that you are facing as a mother does not define you as a failed parent. I know you have tried your best to make that child come out great in life. Despite all your flaws, you still worth to be celebrated. Even if there’s no one to praise you, I think you should appreciate yourself.

I therefore, celebrate all mothers for the courage to start the journey of motherhood. Thank you for your exceptional courage and bravery. Importantly, I celebrate all adoptive moms, mom to an only child who died suddenly, mom to an only child in prison or on an hospital bed. You are also loved.

A mother is an everywoman and an available mother who is everything she need to be at all time. Her husband and children find solace under her wings. A confidant woman is a diligent and sensitive to the needs of every members of her family.

The home is constantly faced with several challenges from the pit of hell. Therefore, the devil is on the mission to destroy every Godly and loving home and to prevent same from being established. However, God has empowered women as mothers to defend the home with the weapon of prayer and confidence in God’s word.

Therefore, a confidant mother is a woman who fears the Lord, she is prayerful and serve as an intercessor for her family.

Moreover, God has endowed all Godly mothers with the wisdom necessary to run the family and a large heart to demonstrate love. A mother with a large heart and the Love of God is a great confidant who can be trusted by her husband and children. She is not a busy body neither does she have a porous mouth.

Because of her intimate, loving and personal relationship with God, she is able to extend a loving arm of comfort to every member of her family and to persons outside her home. She is dependable, reliable, loyal and Honest.

Even so, her act of love, kindness and simplicity is of a high esteem. A mother who is a confidant, has a virtue of trustworthiness. Her husband and children have confidence in her just like the book of Proverbs says.

A confidant mother is the comfort zone where her husband and children run to from the heat and storm of the outside world. She console and encourage them with the words of her mouth. Her words are filled with wisdom and power because she is the daughter of a King. Her husband has no fear, telling her about his fears and struggles, because she is an encourager and an enabler.  A confidant mother is a virtuous woman with a listening hear and a loving heart.

You can also become a confidant mother today. Learn more on how to become a confidant mother from my new eBook, “Mother: A Great Confidant”. Download here for free.

Praying is one of the best ways to intimate our relationship with God. Prayer is a loving relationship that can be developed through daily, consistent and faithful intimacy. keeping a prayer journal is one of the efficient ways to deepen your relationship with God.

You should cultivate a more loving relationship with God through prayers, and then keep a prayer journal of how much love you have received from God and how you have also responded. Just like the psalmist said, we are to number our blessings.

Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits Psalm 103:2 ESV

Keeping a prayer journal will increase your heart of gratitude to God. You will always be conscious of his love for you and will live a consistent, daily victorious life.

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable. If there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. Philippians 4:8 ESV

Your prayer journal is evidence of God’s faithfulness to you. You can always revisit it when the devil come to attack you with his lies about the power of your prayers

Keeping a prayer journal in 2021 will help you track your spiritual growth on a daily and consistent basis. You need to do something different in 2021. Keeping a prayer journal guarantees an exceptional result in your walk with God and in other areas of your life. One of the best decisions you should make for your spiritual and all-round growth in 2021 is, keeping a prayer journal.

No worries about how to find a prayer journal that will best suit your spiritual growth need for 2021. I have handpicked these 15 best prayer journals for 2021. Personally, I found each of these prayer journals interesting and easy to use for personal spiritual growth throughout the year. Each prayer journal includes bible verse and prayer for each of the 356 days of 2021. There are also spaces for writing personal notes of God’s faithfulness each day.

Are you ready to start 2021 with a new intimate loving relationship with God? If yes, choose any of these 10 best prayer journal for 2021

Prayer journals for women for daily devotion

1. Good Days Starts with Gratitude by pretty simple press

Gratefulness is one of God’s desire from us. God wants us to be thankful for all he has done for us. Good days start with gratitude is a 52 weeks prayer journal that will help you cultivate a thankful heart. It will guide you on how to be thankful for what you have, the big things and even the simple joys. Beginning your day with gratitude means you are starting on the right note.

The journal contains a weekly inspirational quote to inspire you on gratitude. There is a space to write the things you are thankful for at the end of each week. The most exciting thing about this prayer journal is; it helps you to daily cultivate a grateful heart not minding the challenges you might have experienced during the day. You will always have something to be grateful to God for. Get a copy for yourself and a friend, to start the journey of 2021 with gratitude.

Review

Just started using this journal after being in a bit of a funk at the start of this year. I have researched many journals, but this was the only one I felt was simple. It didn’t make too many ‘demands’ on my time, that was straightforward, in short, exactly what I was looking for. It’s a simple concept and I’ve only been doing it for a week. However, I have found myself looking for things to be thankful for, found myself adding lines below the three provided and wrote in the margins…all because I want to…

2. Inspired to Grace Prayer Journal by Inspired to Grace

Inspired to grace is a Christian prayer Journal which is very useful for deepening your personal relationship with God. Each page contains bible verse to meet your daily needs. The memory verse, prayer, bible quotes and lots of space for writing will inspire you for daily reflections and thoughts. Inspired to grace prayer journal was designed for living a daily practical Christian life. It will also get you closer to God. This prayer journal is a valuable gift for your family members and loved ones. It is also perfect for group and -family study.

Review

This arrived today and I was so excited to get it. I am very pleased with it. I decorated mine with items I had on hand and I personalized it with my name 🙂 Can’t beat the price and I’m gonna order some more for my friends. Highly recommend it especially if you wanna grow in your faith walk like me. I strayed from my walk with God when I was diagnosed with cancer, but found my way back. This book can be decorated with washi/stickers. Make your own personal prayer journal you’ll be glad you bought it. And if you don’t like the spine, you can take it and have it spiral bound for cheap. I may also do this but maybe not haha we shall see. I’m giving this 5 stars ⭐️ ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

3. Good Morning God Prayer Journal by DaySpring

Starting your day with God is a major requirement for experiencing a happy and productive day. Good Morning God Prayer Journal is designed for helping you start your day with God through Prayers, meditation of God’s word and thankfulness. The prayer journal helps you to start the new day with new hopes, joy, love and His mercies. God’s word will strengthens your heart to overcome every challenge of the day. Each page of the good morning God prayer journal features bible verse for each day, prayer and lots of space to write your reflections, thoughts, and things to thank God for each day of the 365 days of the year.

Review

The title “GOOD MORNING GOD” caught my attention and drew me to get this journal. It’s my first thought each morning I wake up! I struggle with “praying” in the traditional sense so this journal is where I write down my prayers for the day. I’m severe ADHD so this journal keeps me focused on what and/or who I’m praying for.
It has “prayer” on the 1st page and has “God is good”… on the page parallel to it. I also deal with severe chronic pain so I love the “God is good because “ page, because it helps me start the day with gratitude:) They make GREAT gifts as well! Love it!!

4. The Prayer Map for women by Barbour Staff

Do you find it difficult to put the right words together in prayer? Expressing our deepest thoughts in prayer can sometimes be an uneasy thing to do and that’s because there are lots of issues in our hearts that we would like to talk to God about but you might not know how to start precisely. This prayer journal for women will help you to develop a more personal and fulfilling prayer life. The prayer journal provides much space for you to write down a list of all your thoughts and reflections. This then create a specific map for you to pray and let God know your mind about all the issues you would want to speak to him about.

The prayer map for women’s prayer journal will help you to talk to God about pressing issues in your life. It will also help you to build a healthy spiritual habits during prayer. you can write the date you prayed so that you can express gratitude to God when your prayers are answered. The prayer journal also includes carefully selected bible verses to guide you during your prayer time. The prayer map is useful as a guide during personal quiet time with God and during group study.

Review

I love this prayer journal! This is my first attempt at a prayer journal and this was a great one to find. I love the prompts on each page to really make you think and reflect. You could really use this however you wanted. Do it by day or for the week. I’m trying to be as specific as possible. I can’t wait to look back and reflect on what God has done. Highly recommend!

This is a simple format. The two pages are repeated throughout the journal, with space for writing answers to prayers, questions, worries, etc. I would like to see a little more variety throughout the journal, but for the price I think it is still worthwhile and a good investment in your prayer life. I purchased this as a Mother’s Day gift along with a nice set of pens and think my mom will enjoy it.

Special prayer journals for women of God

5. Prayer Journal for Women of God by David Lee Martin, Larna Jane Martin

Are you a woman of God who is seeking to deepen her relationship with God in 2021? If yes, then prayer journal for women of God is for you.

Prayer journal for women of God is specially designed for use by women of vibrant faith and fervent prayer life. The journal will help you to get more intimate with God in bible study and prayers. You can also keep a track record of your personal encounters with God during your personal quiet time with the Lord. The prayer journal for women of God features a 52 week’s plan for reading through the bible with a box to tick off each day. There are over 200 inspirational bible verses, quotes, and much space to record your personal encounters, personal scriptures, prayer requests, answered prayers, and space for the date, to keep a record of your daily time with God.

Grab a copy of this faith-filled journal and start recording and celebrating your deepened fellowship with your father.

Review

Bought several of these as gifts for friends. Large size pages give ample room for notes and scriptures, and the beautiful scripture art pages are so encouraging. Contains hundreds of quotes and prayer scriptures on the journal pages as well. The Prayer Journal for Women of God also has many useful extras to help and strengthen your prayer life, making it even more than just a journal. You also get lots of free online prayer resources. Truly good value and will buy again whenever a need a gift for girlfriends with a heart for Jesus!

6. Daily Wisdom for Women by Barbour Staff

Daily wisdom for women is specially designed to help women find spiritual direction and guidance in their daily activities through the 365 days of the year. Women will find daily comfort, encouragement, and deepened personal intimacy with her savior all through the year.

Daily wisdom for women, is a prayer journal that features daily scripture reading, prayer reflections, and reading plan through Genesis to Revelation for the 365 days of the year. Do you desire to grow in a loving, intimate relationship with God this 2021? Then get a copy of daily wisdom for women.

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This prayer journal will be my devotional for 2021. It has a scripture, a devotional reading, and a prayer for each day of the year. This book will be a wonderful way to keep you focused on God and it has a daily bible reading guide in the back.

7. Prayer Journal for Women by Elizabeth Crowley

The prayer journal for women is a 52 weeks guided prayer-notebook for women of God. The inner pages of the journal feature seven sections on different topics of faith with inspiring bible verses such as love, faith, courage, forgiveness, purpose, let go and let God, God want you to know him. The prayer journal for women also features the author’s words and much space for writing your thoughts, prayer, bible verse, reflections and answered prayers.

Get a copy for yourself and a loved one.

Review

Back in the summer, my husband purchased me a three-month prayer journal, and I loved it. However, I really enjoy this one even more! You read two sections a week. It has a main scripture and then a reflection on a crucial point to reveal to you and ends with a question. Then there is a spot for you to be interactive and answer questions by writing down your thoughts and feelings. This has really helped me to reflect and reminded me I do have a purpose! Highly recommend almost like a devotional.

Prayer journals for women to build up your trust in God

8. Worry Less, Pray More by Donna k. Maltese

The year 2020 is filled with tragic events and happenings that resulted into so much worry, anxiety and even depression for a lot of individuals. However, you can make 2021 an exciting and fulfilling year through the prayer journal Worry Less, Pray More, irrespective of your experience in 2020. This prayer journal will guide you into an anxiety-free living.

The pages of the prayer journal feature 180 bible verse of God’s promises with prayer. You are to meditate on those bible verses to overcome all worries, fear, doubt, anxiety and depression.

Worry Less, Pray More, help you understand the truth that with God, you can live an anxiety-free life every single day—whether you worry about your work, relationships, bills, the turmoil of the world, or something more.

Get a copy for yourself and your loved one to experience a 2021 filled with joy, happiness and fulfillment.

Review

I am a God-fearing woman and know that when I worry, even for a second, I’m losing my faith for that moment. And that’s the last thing I want to do is disappoint God. I worry about everything and especially right now with things the way they are. I realize that my worrying doesn’t help anything, it’s out of my control. This book is small enough for me to carry around the house, I know it sounds silly but I carry my iPad and my phone around so why not just carry this around with them? It basically weighs about 4 ounces, if that. When I feel worried, I open it up and read it and it’s seriously lifted a huge weight off of my shoulders and puts me back in peace again. I know that God is there, but sometimes we all need a little of a reminder.

This is a great little book; I will follow this author because obviously, she knows that we are all human and need a little of reassurance once in a while – God is our savior and does not want us to worry. I am going to buy five and send them out with Christmas cards this year to those other God-fearing women that I love, including my sweet grandmother, my mother-in-law as well as a few dear friends of mine.

9. Trusting God Day by Day by Joyce Meyer

Trusting God is one of the hardest things for us to do as humans. However, God really love it when we trust him for all our needs instead of worrying and being anxious. God want to give us the peace that pass all human understanding when we trust him.

In her dynamic new devotional, Trusting God Day by Day, Joyce Meyer provides you with powerful “starting points” for every day of the year. Each day’s devotion is filled with practical advice and help from Joyce with life-changing promises from God’s Word. The prayer journal is a weapon to daily help you overcome challenges through trusting God. Using this devotional and prayer journal, you will be able to make good choices, battle worry, overcome anxiety and keep a positive attitude in 2021.

Review

I’m not a big reviewer unless I truly love the item. This devotional is the perfect length for a busy person and helps you view things differently when faced with difficult times. I recently purchased it because of a lack of trust for God due to suffering severe depression and anxiety for many years. Having read almost a months-worth of devotions and really enjoy it. I find that it doesn’t minimize your problems like some devotional can but it just helps you to see them from a different perspective. I will definitely be recommending this to others.

This devotional is perfect for the individual who wants to develop a deeper relationship with God by gradually trusting Him. Many time, we think we know what’s best but that isn’t always the case (at least this is true for me). I have some areas in my life where I can’t handle them alone so I decided to turn to God with them for some help. I’ve only had this devotional for a month and a half and it’s helping me a lot already! I love how a lot of these devotionals are made for busy people who only have a few minutes to read one of these every day and that’s enough to read them.

The devotions are dated, so I just started with the date when I got this in the mail. There are 365 devotions and it would be nice if there was a devotion for February 29th. however, you could remedy that by rereading a previous devotion or skipping ahead to a random one. Each day starts with a theme and a Bible verse that pertains to the devotion’s theme. The bible verses are taken from The Amplified Bible unless otherwise noted.

Then the bulk of the devotion is Joyce’s thoughts and evidence taken from the Bible. This is about how we can change our attitude about casting our cares (October 9th), being a blessing to others (October 6th), and handling whatever life hands us (August 24th), just to name a few. Some of it is her life experience which really helps to put the devotion into perspective. Finally, the devotion ends with a “Trust in Him” section, which gives some questions or statements to think about. I’d say each devotion takes no longer than two or three minutes to read. Especially if you read it at a slower pace to digest it more.

10. God Hears Her by our daily bread ministries

Women are God’s special creatures with much need for love, attention, care and assurance of well-belonging. We are blessed with such a fragile heart so much that we must be assured that we are loved. The prayer journal God hears her create the awareness of God’s love in every woman. God loves and cares for you and God hears you whenever you call. You have more than someone who cares for you, you have a heavenly father who is always with you. The prayer journal God Hears Her features, 356 daily devotional written by women for women. There are personal stories of compilers, scriptures passages and inspirational quotes.

Get a copy for yourself and your girlfriends.

Review

So far, so good with this devotional. I love to hear stories from other women that link to real-life situations along with the scriptures. The readings are a suitable length where it doesn’t feel like homework every day. I highly recommend this devotional for those out there looking for a daily read.

Divorce has been a growing menace facing many marriages in the 21st century which is liable to linger till the centuries to come. This challenge has been a viral disease in both developed and developing countries. It has proven resistance to all forms of solutions offered. You need to save your marriage from divorce, if you want to enjoy the blessings of marriage.

There had been numerous causes of divorce in marriages such as irreconcilable differences caused by negative personality traits, debt, infidelity, abuse, drug addiction, alcoholism and many more.

Nevertheless, with the increase in the rate of divorce in our world, you can save your marriage from this civilized devil breaking into marriages, even Christian homes. Getting court approval for divorce is now an easy thing in our civilized world disregarding what our culture, traditions or religious beliefs say about divorce. And most times, the people who suffer most in the trauma of a post-divorce life are women and children.

Nowadays there are fewer marriages and more divorces, especially in the civilized world. Everyone wants to be involved in a loving relationship, but only a few individuals are ready for the commitment and responsibilities that it entails.

However, it doesn’t matter how rampant divorce is in our world; you can save your marriage against this socially acceptable marriage epidemic outbreak and maintain a happy, and Godly home where Godly seeds are raised for the Lord.

Do you want to make your marriage a heaven on earth? These tips to safeguarding your marriage from divorce will show you how.

Tip1: Share a commitment to love one another

Love is not just a feeling that you have for someone; it’s a decision you make, to stay faithful, committed and devoted to the one you love. Committing to love your spouse despite how you feel about him/her or the situation that you are both in, will save your marriage from divorce and to last a lifetime.

Tip 2: Identify your personalities.

Many couples were driven into married life because of their in-love feeling for one another not minding their individual peculiarity. You should know your partner’s temperament, what he/she is capable of and can’t. Having a vivid knowledge of who your partner is will enable you to develop a positive counter-reaction that will calm any negative vibe coming from your partner. This will help you to prevent a lot of strivings in the home.  These will also improve your ability to tolerate your partner’s excesses.

Tip3: Identify and Adjust any negative personality

You should identify attitudes or characters that are destructive or proving a threat to your marriage. Then make efforts to change or adjust. Although you don’t have to change your partner, each marriage partners who want to save their marriage from divorce should endeavor to get rid of negative attitudes.

Tip4: Embrace tolerance and forgiveness

One of the attributes of love is long-suffering and should be exhibited by everyone who is involved in a loving marriage relationship. You must be ready to tolerate your partner’s shortcomings and if possible, make up for any area where your partner is weak or passive. However, you shouldn’t stay only at the point of tolerating your partner; you should forgive when he/she goes wrong. Don’t ever forget that love forgives all wrongs. It doesn’t matter the type of wrong committed against you by your partner or its effect.

Tip 5: Embrace right communication

Nowadays, most couples find it challenging to communicate with one another in clear tones and as at when due. When communicating with your partner, make sure that you use the right words which will be understandable to your partner, don’t just speak, communicate. Let your partner have some time to respond to what you have said.

Always make your intentions and expectations known to your partner with no assumptions about your partner. When communicating with your partner, apart from choosing the right word, you should also choose the right time, tone and attitude for communication. Learn to listen while your partner speaks to have proper and understandable communication that will save your marriage from divorce.

Tip 6: Maintain an open and transparent relationship

For your marriage to prosper and save from divorce now or later, you should maintain an open and transparent relationship. There should be no secrecy between you and your spouse. Be transparent about every information you provide to your partner. Make sure that you say things just as they are with no exaggerations. Furthermore, do not compare your partner or marriage with another person, instead maintain an open, loving relationship with your partner as this will strengthen your love relationship.

In maintaining an open and transparent relationship with your partner, you can also plan your finance together, make sure that you both stay debt-free, with plans for your future. Have a mutual agreement on how to handle issues relating to in-laws so that each in-law will receive equal treatment.

Tip 7: Know your partner’s love language

You should know what you can do to make your partner happy and feel lovable. This is one of the attitudes that will strengthen your relationship with your spouse and increase its joy. speaking your partner’s love language is one of the major ways to save your marriage from divorce. Don’t expect your partner to speak the same love language as you do. Instead, find out what love language your partner speaks.

Tip 8: Avoid the third party

To save your marriage from divorce, avoid third parties from intruding into the affairs of your marriage. You should always make decisions regarding your marriage with your partner. Also, always try to work out your differences in a loving manner within the confinement of your home. However, you should only take helpful advice from friends, parents and family members.

The bottom line.

Stay loveable and be appreciative

Only lovable people will receive love because they will also be ready to give out love anytime. Make yourself attractive and loveable to your spouse. Always appreciate your spouse for all act of kindness that you have received from your partner, no matter how little it may be.

Appreciating your partner shows that you value and respect them. However, this simple act of appreciation will make love to grow in your hearts continually.